I attended a workshop by a therapist who works with people from all over the world who are challenged by their circumstances, health, and past traumas. One of the important “take aways” for me was the importance of knowing what our values are and how much we are living them in our daily lives.
So what are VALUES?
Values are NOT goals. Goals are specific events, situation, or object which keep you on track to follow your values.
Values are NOT feelings and following your values may not always feel easy or good.
Values are NOT a specific outcome but a guide or direction you choose.
Values do NOT always follow a straight line because life presents obstacles to moving towards our values.
Values are NOT just in the future, but a choice you make at every step during your journey.
Although how we live our values are unique to each of us, the values listed below are UNIVERSAL. It does not matter your culture, gender, race or religion. These ten value areas are relevant to us all. They are:
INTIMATE – your relationship with significant others
FRIENDS – those you personally connect with
WORK – paid employment or volunteer
SPIRITUALITY – connection to something greater than yourself
LEISURE – enjoyment
CARETAKING – supporting others
EDUCATION – overall learning and developing yourself
HEALTH – physical well-being
FAMILY – your own nuclear or those you define as family
COMMUNITY – citizenship
Use this chart to place a number by each of these values rank ordering them according to how important it is to you. Then rank order each according to your current behavior(manifestation). Then subtract the score on how you are manifesting or living this value from the score of its importance. This will give you info on how much you are living your values vs. how much you are “deviating” from them.
The higher the number, the more you may want to make some change in your life and behavior to bring your values into alignment with how you are living your life. The source of some of our unease and unhappiness may be related to this lack of alignment.
Pick one value area that is important to you and commit to taking some action to live that intention more directly and fully. Really look at what obstacles are in the way. Remember this is not a contest on how well you achieve your goals. This is a direction to focus to move along your overall journey towards a life more in line with your values.